Recently, Jane asked me why it is so difficult to date Booth men. “Booth guys,” she said, “seem only interested in dating outside of the Booth bubble.” She remarked that dating is quite frustrating to the point of admitting defeat and thus ceasing to try at all. I met with my friend John, who has dated both Booth women and others, to discuss Jane’s quandary: why do Booth men date outside of Booth? You have a pool of some of the most talented prospects, so why do Booth men seek these “civilians” over “Boothies”?
John said he came to Booth with very low expectations. The ratio being 65:35, against him, knowing that a significant portion of those females would be off the market. John quipped,
“I mean, if I found a girl from Booth that had everything I wanted, I wouldn’t have hesitated going after her. But given the ratio and availability, I immediately began pursuing women outside the Booth circle.”
Following up from our previous conversation, we then discussed how difficult it is for a guy to date Booth girls. According to John, Booth guys are way too aggressive. “A guy like me goes to TNDC, hangs out with a bunch of bros, high-fiving and pounding shots, and I find a cute girl and approach her. Then suddenly there are six guys swarming her. It may be good for her, may not be, but it creates a situation where she is artificially scarce in that environment.” John claimed dating girls outside of Booth is much easier, “any other place it would more approachable, but here, it is impossible. So I feel like it is much easier to go to a bar next door to TNDC, talk to a girl who is just as cool and has no guys talking to her. She’s not shoving off all the dudes swarming her. Everything equal, it would be a lot easier to pick up the Booth girl in a different environment.” He also talked about the “Booth premium.” “Booth is near and dear to Chicagoans’ hearts,” John said. “Most of the city’s residents grew up here and know people from Booth who they look up to and respect. Booth is a stamp of approval.”
John also thinks Booth men and women have a superficial approach to interactions, even the romantic ones; something he calls the “coffee chat syndrome.” Girls at TNDC often ask the same five generic questions that no one remembers. The emphasis on networking, he says “carries over into the potential dating scene, where you are just excited about the prospect of talking to a million people and you focus on superficial quantity over quality… they just ask you how your weekend was and move on.”
John had some sound advice for Jane. Do not to treat dating as a job interview or crop circles. “The superficial nature of that will carry into your dating life. It is fine for job searches to be superficial and they should be objective, but that’s not the way dating should be.” In John’s opinion dating should be subjective. “It should be about making a quality connection with people and figuring out if you are actually compatible.” Hopefully John has shed some light on the dating scene for Jane. But unfortunately, part of me believes that I’ll see Jane at the next TNDC, in a crop circle, engaging in questions about her weekend.